Happy and healthy family relationships grow from decisions to work through all the problems of life in a constructive and loving way. The materials provided here may be used to guide discussion and considerations for a 50-60 minute parenting class to help parents grow into strong, supportive and loving mentors for their children.
"Communication is essential to the expression of love. Where there is love, there must be communication. Love inevitably expresses itself and moves out toward others. When communication breaks down, love is blocked. It's energy will turn to resentment and hostility." (Herein is Love. Reuel Howe)
In many families, the key to communication cannot be found. The doors to meaningful sharing are locked. Communication is the process of sharing yourself both verbally and non-verbally in such a way that the other person can understand and accept what you are saying.
Listening, talking and understanding are all involved in communication. Constructive family communication is the result of a conscious decision deliberately made. Communication takes time, concern, and consideration.
The First duty of love is to listen. Hearing is passive; listening is active. Listening demands concentration...thinking with the other person. The following phrase is too often true; "You're hearing me, but you aren't listening to me." (Paul Tillich).
"It is impossible to overestimate the immense need people have to be really listened to. A person feels affirmed when they are thoughtfully listened to." (Paul Tournier).
Listening with both your ears and eyes is essential in communication, but listening doesn't come easily. Most of us want to talk and tell our side of the story. We need to listen more and talk less.
Family communication often becomes filled with emotional needs and struggles for power.
In messages involving feelings, psychologist Albert Mehrabian contends that non-verbal communication is the message that is heard. Think about what you are communicating through your:
Words (7%), Body language (55%- eye contact, gestures, facial expressions),Tone of voice (38%).
Misunderstandings and misinterpretations often occur.
There are actually six messages that can come through.
1. What you mean to say.
2. What you actually say.
3 What the other person hears.
4. What the other person thinks he hears.
5. What the other person says about what you said.
6. What you think the other person said about what you said. (1)
Barriers to Communication
Lack of time
Bad timing
Anger
Exaggeration
Poor choice of words
Mixed messages
Noise
Hearing problems
Unwillingness to listen to others
Self-centeredness
Lack of concern for others
Insecurity
Fear others will disagree
Words that hurt
Angry expressions
Too busy
Arrogance
Words have power. Chose them carefully.
Words can hurt, injure, anger and alienate.
Or they can heal, help, comfort and soothe.
Words that hurt and discourage.
What's the matter with you?
Why are you causing trouble?
Why don't you ever help?
You stupid idiot!
Can't you do one simple thing?
Is that the best you can do?
Words that heal and encourage.
That's great, I like that.
I appreciate what you do around here.
Could you please help me with this?
I'm proud of you.
Thank you for helping.
You're coming along. Keep at it.
Instead of "YOU" Statements (they place blame and create defensiveness)
-Why did you do that?, You are so careless!
use "I" Statements (they describe your feelings and create understanding.).
- I'm confused. I don't understand what you're doing. I'm afraid you're going to break something.
Avoid Buzz words and absolute terms.
Words such as 'always', 'never', and 'why didn't you' run up red flags.
- You never listen to me!
- You always interrupt me when I talk.
- Why didn't you finish that ?
Think of a thoughtful way to make a point.
- I feel left out when you don't include me in the conversation.
- When you finish your job we can play a game.
- When you interrupt me I lose track of what I'm saying.
Write it down!
The marriage weekend retreats called Marriage Encounter encourage writing thoughts and feelings about relationships and sharing them with your partner.
Writing helps to focus thoughts and crystallize feelings in a way that helps the writer and the receiver understand the problem better without being burdened with emotional expression or gestures.
The Family Realm is Unique.
It is within the family realm that the qualities of God's love are developed and shared. The family realm is the unique organization in which we become whole in our relationships.
Other organizations, including school, church, business or recreation, involve us only for a limited time with a focused involvement. We interact as a role person with role expectations.
It is within the family that we interact as a whole person with the emotions of a whole person. Many processes are occurring at once with a goal of permanent involvement and mutidimensional caregiving. It is within the family that we grow as a person of ultimate value.
Impart Grace to Those Who Hear. Speak the Truth in Love.
But speaking the truth in love, may you grow up into Him in all things, which is the head, even Christ. (Ephesians 4:15).
Therefore, putting away falsehood, let every one speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another...
Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for edifying, as fits the occasion, that it may impart grace to those who hear.
Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God...Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, with all malice,
And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (Ephesians 4:25-32).
Reference:
1. H. Norman Wright. Communication: Key to your Marriage. Gospel Light, 1978:17).
Sunday, February 21, 2016
Sunday, October 11, 2015
Concerning Our Dual Economy and Taxation
A major political argument in our society is who pays taxes and how much. The discussion is usually reduced to simplistic arguments as to higher taxation to support government programs as opposed to letting people hold on to more of their own money.
We fail to address the reality that we live in a dual economy.
On the one hand a multitude of people are encouraged to prepare themselves for a salaried career to provide a service for society.
These people agree to work for a limited and constant wage with little expectation of bonuses, including:
police; firefighters; public school teachers; state university professors; public health doctors and nurses; social workers; local, state and federal officials; court system and prison personnel.
These workers are paid by taxes and generally their salaries are modest and limited while they provide essential and necessary services which protect and support the well-being of the larger society.
On the other hand we have a free-marketplace and profit-oriented system.
In this system creative people can develop a private business which provides jobs and services. They can charge what the public will pay for their services and accumulate profit. Whether it's a sports franchise, food services, manufacturing, construction, repair work, media, entertainment or retail the profits can be quite lucrative.
Our graduated tax system has required a higher tax rate as more profit is accumulated. These taxes are used to pay the wages of the services provided by the public service workers that protect and support the social setting.
These two economies are highly dependent upon each other. One could not operate without the other. It is necessary to respect, appreciate, encourage, support and protect the well-being of each sector.
A graduated tax system is necessary and appropriate for the continued well-being of our ability to progress and move forward as a nation to be a beacon of light and inspiration to the world.
We fail to address the reality that we live in a dual economy.
On the one hand a multitude of people are encouraged to prepare themselves for a salaried career to provide a service for society.
These people agree to work for a limited and constant wage with little expectation of bonuses, including:
police; firefighters; public school teachers; state university professors; public health doctors and nurses; social workers; local, state and federal officials; court system and prison personnel.
These workers are paid by taxes and generally their salaries are modest and limited while they provide essential and necessary services which protect and support the well-being of the larger society.
On the other hand we have a free-marketplace and profit-oriented system.
In this system creative people can develop a private business which provides jobs and services. They can charge what the public will pay for their services and accumulate profit. Whether it's a sports franchise, food services, manufacturing, construction, repair work, media, entertainment or retail the profits can be quite lucrative.
Our graduated tax system has required a higher tax rate as more profit is accumulated. These taxes are used to pay the wages of the services provided by the public service workers that protect and support the social setting.
These two economies are highly dependent upon each other. One could not operate without the other. It is necessary to respect, appreciate, encourage, support and protect the well-being of each sector.
A graduated tax system is necessary and appropriate for the continued well-being of our ability to progress and move forward as a nation to be a beacon of light and inspiration to the world.
Friday, June 12, 2015
Open Letter to Chief Justice of the Supreme Court, John Roberts, Jr.
Dear Chief Justice Roberts;
I understand that the Supreme Court will soon make a decision in regard to the constitutionality of same sex marriage. I urge you to vote in favor of protecting marriage as between a man and a woman.
Please bring my concerns to the attention of the other Supreme Court Justices.
I am not here discussing homosexuals, many of whom contribute generously to their community, but rather considering consequences of homosexuality as a normalized behavior. The profound changes that would be brought about in social integration, social organization, social reproduction and social health warrant caution and serious consideration.
My concern is not that the Bible speaks against homosexuality, but rather why the Bible and countless other societal writings throughout the milleniums have held homosexuality as a social taboo.
The family unit has integrated men and women, children, grandparents and extended relatives in personal, caring and supportive relationships that transcend the generations. Countless research confirms that the greatest sources of nurture, support, and meaning for the majority of Americans are found within the family unit.
The opportunity for the autonomous family to preserve and pass down cultural values to the next generation is the foundation upon which freedom is built. This process develops diversity of perspectives, providing the checks and balances in society which guard against destructive extremes.
The normalization of homosexuality will jeopardize social reproduction. When society changes rapidly it is prudent to inquire, "Who benefits". The commercialization of reproduction through buying of sperm and egg and the creating of children through deliberate planning by professionals (at high cost) will replace the caring and loving union of mother, father, children and grandchildren. This is t;he foundation of eugenics. Whose sperm? Whose egg? As children are taught to accept homosexuality as a normal choice, the intergenerational transfer of genetic and cultural patterns in society becomes jeopardized.
The personal and public health risks associated with homosexual behaviors are deeply troubling. The first cases of HIV/AIDS were reported in the U.S. in 1981 within the homosexual community. Since then the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that over 648,000 deaths have occurred, the majority of cases resulting from male-to-male sexual conduct. CDC reports that 77% of those affected with AIDS are male. As bisexuality is listed as a gender choice, the deadly disease has transferred to the heterosexual community .
Syphilis was a disease on the verge of elimination. The CDC reports "...in 2001 it re-emerged as a public health threat because of a resurgence of the disease among men who have sex with men (MSM). In 2008 there were 13,500 reported cases of syphilis." "In 2012, 75% of the reported primary and secondary syphilis cases were among men who have sex with men." Bisexuality brings this disease to women and babies. The syphilis rate in San Antonio has recently broken all recent records and an epidemic of babies have been born with syphilis.
The Supreme Court overturned the sodomy law of Texas. Sodomy contributes to:
95% of AIDS infections among gay men (Commentary, Nov. 1987, pgs. 22-23),
4000% increase in risk of anal cancer (Between the Lines, Sept. 29, 2000), and
860% increase in sexually transmitted diseases (CDC, Sept. 10, 1999).
In the early 1990's the gay agenda sought to promote tolerance of the gay/lesbian lifestyles in the public schools at all levels. To teach children that homosexual behaviors are equivalent to heterosexual behaviors jeopardizes their ability to move into responsible heterosexual and family relationships.
Children have neither the maturity nor background to understand and evaluate this information. Childhood is a time to learn directives for living and growing into mature citizens and healthy and responsible adults. Condoms, with a 14% failure rate (for pregnancy) are handed out freely in schools, even at the junior high level with the implication that sex will be 'safe' if you 'protect' yourself with a condom.
A responsible society must protect the children from behaviors that will endanger them.
Heterosexual family forms have been protected and passed down through centuries of civilizations and in virtually all societies. In every society it is essential to establish and protect laws that will benefit the well-being of the larger society and individuals. The social discourse has been rampant with charges of bigotry, and hate mongering. However, neither claims of tolerance, discrimination, intimidation, nor back slapping love fests are appropriate means to bring about change in social organization that has wide reaching negative consequences.
I have presented two papers at professional meetings related to the considerations listed above. the PDF files of these papers can be downloaded from my website: www.wrestlingwithangels.com under the section "Related Essays".
* Over the Rainbow: The Gay Battle for Social Reorganization of America (49 pages).
* The Impact of Contemporary Family Life Patterns on the Quality and Stability of Child Rearing (43 pages).
Thank you for your consideration and for the important work you provide for our country.
Sincerely,
Marjorie L. Coppock, Ph..D.
I understand that the Supreme Court will soon make a decision in regard to the constitutionality of same sex marriage. I urge you to vote in favor of protecting marriage as between a man and a woman.
Please bring my concerns to the attention of the other Supreme Court Justices.
I am not here discussing homosexuals, many of whom contribute generously to their community, but rather considering consequences of homosexuality as a normalized behavior. The profound changes that would be brought about in social integration, social organization, social reproduction and social health warrant caution and serious consideration.
My concern is not that the Bible speaks against homosexuality, but rather why the Bible and countless other societal writings throughout the milleniums have held homosexuality as a social taboo.
The family unit has integrated men and women, children, grandparents and extended relatives in personal, caring and supportive relationships that transcend the generations. Countless research confirms that the greatest sources of nurture, support, and meaning for the majority of Americans are found within the family unit.
The opportunity for the autonomous family to preserve and pass down cultural values to the next generation is the foundation upon which freedom is built. This process develops diversity of perspectives, providing the checks and balances in society which guard against destructive extremes.
The normalization of homosexuality will jeopardize social reproduction. When society changes rapidly it is prudent to inquire, "Who benefits". The commercialization of reproduction through buying of sperm and egg and the creating of children through deliberate planning by professionals (at high cost) will replace the caring and loving union of mother, father, children and grandchildren. This is t;he foundation of eugenics. Whose sperm? Whose egg? As children are taught to accept homosexuality as a normal choice, the intergenerational transfer of genetic and cultural patterns in society becomes jeopardized.
The personal and public health risks associated with homosexual behaviors are deeply troubling. The first cases of HIV/AIDS were reported in the U.S. in 1981 within the homosexual community. Since then the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that over 648,000 deaths have occurred, the majority of cases resulting from male-to-male sexual conduct. CDC reports that 77% of those affected with AIDS are male. As bisexuality is listed as a gender choice, the deadly disease has transferred to the heterosexual community .
Syphilis was a disease on the verge of elimination. The CDC reports "...in 2001 it re-emerged as a public health threat because of a resurgence of the disease among men who have sex with men (MSM). In 2008 there were 13,500 reported cases of syphilis." "In 2012, 75% of the reported primary and secondary syphilis cases were among men who have sex with men." Bisexuality brings this disease to women and babies. The syphilis rate in San Antonio has recently broken all recent records and an epidemic of babies have been born with syphilis.
The Supreme Court overturned the sodomy law of Texas. Sodomy contributes to:
95% of AIDS infections among gay men (Commentary, Nov. 1987, pgs. 22-23),
4000% increase in risk of anal cancer (Between the Lines, Sept. 29, 2000), and
860% increase in sexually transmitted diseases (CDC, Sept. 10, 1999).
In the early 1990's the gay agenda sought to promote tolerance of the gay/lesbian lifestyles in the public schools at all levels. To teach children that homosexual behaviors are equivalent to heterosexual behaviors jeopardizes their ability to move into responsible heterosexual and family relationships.
Children have neither the maturity nor background to understand and evaluate this information. Childhood is a time to learn directives for living and growing into mature citizens and healthy and responsible adults. Condoms, with a 14% failure rate (for pregnancy) are handed out freely in schools, even at the junior high level with the implication that sex will be 'safe' if you 'protect' yourself with a condom.
A responsible society must protect the children from behaviors that will endanger them.
Heterosexual family forms have been protected and passed down through centuries of civilizations and in virtually all societies. In every society it is essential to establish and protect laws that will benefit the well-being of the larger society and individuals. The social discourse has been rampant with charges of bigotry, and hate mongering. However, neither claims of tolerance, discrimination, intimidation, nor back slapping love fests are appropriate means to bring about change in social organization that has wide reaching negative consequences.
I have presented two papers at professional meetings related to the considerations listed above. the PDF files of these papers can be downloaded from my website: www.wrestlingwithangels.com under the section "Related Essays".
* Over the Rainbow: The Gay Battle for Social Reorganization of America (49 pages).
* The Impact of Contemporary Family Life Patterns on the Quality and Stability of Child Rearing (43 pages).
Thank you for your consideration and for the important work you provide for our country.
Sincerely,
Marjorie L. Coppock, Ph..D.
Monday, September 29, 2014
Life Beyond? Researching Near-Death Experiences
Within the last 50 years modern techniques of resuscitation have improved survival rates of people who have been brought back to life after having been pronounced clinically dead. With increases in rates of cardiac resuscitation, the number of reported near-death experiences (NDE's) has increased, drawing a growing number of researchers into the field of near-death studies.
Because these subjective experiences have been objectively non-verifiable, science has dismissed these experiences as personal hallucinations or science fiction. People were reluctant to share their experiences because it was something 'you didn't talk about'.
GROWING INTEREST IN RESEARCHING NEAR-DEATH EXPERIENCES
Contemporary interest in the study of NDE's was spurred by writings of psychiatrists, Elizabeth Kubler Ross and George Ritchie and by Dr. Raymond Moody who published his book Life After Life. This book, released in 1975, brought public attention to the topic of NDE's. In 1992, the Gallup Poll reported that 13 Million Americans had stated they had an NDE.
The Louisiana based Near Death Experience Research Foundation has the largest collection of NDE's. Their website contains records of over 3700 NDE experiences in over 23 languages. The North Carolina based International Association of Near Death Studies (IANDS), established in 1981, encourages scientific research and education on the ramifications of near-death experiences. IANDS publishes the peer- reviewed Journal of Near Death Studies and the quarterly newsletter Vital Signs. Other scientific and academic journals have published research on NDE's, including: Journal of Nervous and Mental Diseases, British Journal of Psychology, American Journal of Disease of Children, Resuscitation, The Lancet, Death Studies and the Journal of Advanced Nursing.
REPORTED EXPERIENCES FOLLOWING RESUSCITATION
Researchers have identified patterns in these experiences that transcend differences based on age and cultural backgrounds. While not every NDE includes all of these, frequently reported experiences include:
* awareness of being dead,
* looking down on one's own body from above
* moving through a dark tunnel
* movement toward a brilliant light
* an overwhelming sense of peace, well-being and love
* reuniting with deceased loved ones
* meeting with 'spiritual guides'
* receiving a life review
* approaching a border with a decision or request to return to one's body.
While most NDE's include pleasurable experiences, some distressing experiences have been reported, dominated by feelings of fear, terror, horror, anger, loneliness, isolation, and/or guilt.
CHANGES IN OUTLOOK ON LIFE
NDE's are associated with changes in personality and outlook on life. Psychologist Kenneth Ring identified changes in values and beliefs. There included a greater appreciation for life, higher self-esteem, greater compassion for others, increased sense of purpose, spiritual awareness, and a desire to learn. Those who had experienced a distressing NDE often change their life patterns and turn their lives in a positive direction.
Many who experience an NDE see it as verification of life after death, saying that they felt more alive in this experience than in the earthly life.
RESEARCH INTO NEAR-DEATH EXPERIENCES CONTINUES TO INCREASE
A growing number of researchers in the field of near-death studies contend that consciousness may continue to exist after death. Other researchers are more skeptical, claiming that changes occurring in the brain cause these experiences.
Dr. Pim van Lommel researches NDE's that are reported by cardiology patients in the Netherlands. He found that of 344 consecutive cardiac patients who were successfully resuscitated after cardiac arrest, 62 patients reported a NDE. It is unclear why so few cardiac patients report NDE after CPR. But he concludes that if it were a purely physiological explanation, most patients who were clinically dead should report one.
As reports of near-death experience occur more frequently with the increase in survival rates resulting from resuscitation, questions are raised as to the cause and meaning of these experiences. The field on near-death studies is drawing a growing number of researchers, including fields of psychology, psychiatry, and medicine, who are interested in the study of near-death experience as phenomena.
REFERENCES:
* Blackmore, Susan. 1993. Dying To Live: Near-Death Experiences. Buffalo, NY: Prometheus Books.
* MacDonald, G. Jeffrey. Jan. 15, 2011. "Near death experiences being studied as more than sci-fi." San Antonio Express-News.:4B.
* IANDS - International Association for Near-death Studies. 9/1/2014. "Distressing Near-Death Experiences." http://iands.org/distressing-near-death-experiences.html.
* Moody, Raymond A. Jr., M.D. 1975. Life After Life: The Investigation of a Phenomenon-Survival of Bodily Death. Marietta, GA: Mockingbird Press.
* Pim van Lommel, Ruud van Wees, Vincent Meyers, and Ingrid Elfferich. December 15, 2001. " Near-death experience in survivors of cardiac arrest: a prospective study in the Netherlands." The Lancet. Vol 358:2039-2045.
* Pim van Lommel, M.D. 2010. Consciousness Beyond Life: The Science of the Near-Death Experience. New York, NY: Harper One.
* Sartori, Dr. Penny. 2014. The Wisdom of Near-Death Experiences: How Understanding NDEs can Help us Live More Fully. Oxford, UK: Watkins Publishing.
* Wikipedia. 9/1/2014. Near-death experience. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Near-death_experience.
*Williams, Kevin. 9/1/2014. Dr. Melvin Morse. http://www.near-death.com/experiences/experts06.html.
Because these subjective experiences have been objectively non-verifiable, science has dismissed these experiences as personal hallucinations or science fiction. People were reluctant to share their experiences because it was something 'you didn't talk about'.
GROWING INTEREST IN RESEARCHING NEAR-DEATH EXPERIENCES
Contemporary interest in the study of NDE's was spurred by writings of psychiatrists, Elizabeth Kubler Ross and George Ritchie and by Dr. Raymond Moody who published his book Life After Life. This book, released in 1975, brought public attention to the topic of NDE's. In 1992, the Gallup Poll reported that 13 Million Americans had stated they had an NDE.
The Louisiana based Near Death Experience Research Foundation has the largest collection of NDE's. Their website contains records of over 3700 NDE experiences in over 23 languages. The North Carolina based International Association of Near Death Studies (IANDS), established in 1981, encourages scientific research and education on the ramifications of near-death experiences. IANDS publishes the peer- reviewed Journal of Near Death Studies and the quarterly newsletter Vital Signs. Other scientific and academic journals have published research on NDE's, including: Journal of Nervous and Mental Diseases, British Journal of Psychology, American Journal of Disease of Children, Resuscitation, The Lancet, Death Studies and the Journal of Advanced Nursing.
REPORTED EXPERIENCES FOLLOWING RESUSCITATION
Researchers have identified patterns in these experiences that transcend differences based on age and cultural backgrounds. While not every NDE includes all of these, frequently reported experiences include:
* awareness of being dead,
* looking down on one's own body from above
* moving through a dark tunnel
* movement toward a brilliant light
* an overwhelming sense of peace, well-being and love
* reuniting with deceased loved ones
* meeting with 'spiritual guides'
* receiving a life review
* approaching a border with a decision or request to return to one's body.
While most NDE's include pleasurable experiences, some distressing experiences have been reported, dominated by feelings of fear, terror, horror, anger, loneliness, isolation, and/or guilt.
CHANGES IN OUTLOOK ON LIFE
NDE's are associated with changes in personality and outlook on life. Psychologist Kenneth Ring identified changes in values and beliefs. There included a greater appreciation for life, higher self-esteem, greater compassion for others, increased sense of purpose, spiritual awareness, and a desire to learn. Those who had experienced a distressing NDE often change their life patterns and turn their lives in a positive direction.
Many who experience an NDE see it as verification of life after death, saying that they felt more alive in this experience than in the earthly life.
RESEARCH INTO NEAR-DEATH EXPERIENCES CONTINUES TO INCREASE
A growing number of researchers in the field of near-death studies contend that consciousness may continue to exist after death. Other researchers are more skeptical, claiming that changes occurring in the brain cause these experiences.
Dr. Pim van Lommel researches NDE's that are reported by cardiology patients in the Netherlands. He found that of 344 consecutive cardiac patients who were successfully resuscitated after cardiac arrest, 62 patients reported a NDE. It is unclear why so few cardiac patients report NDE after CPR. But he concludes that if it were a purely physiological explanation, most patients who were clinically dead should report one.
As reports of near-death experience occur more frequently with the increase in survival rates resulting from resuscitation, questions are raised as to the cause and meaning of these experiences. The field on near-death studies is drawing a growing number of researchers, including fields of psychology, psychiatry, and medicine, who are interested in the study of near-death experience as phenomena.
REFERENCES:
* Blackmore, Susan. 1993. Dying To Live: Near-Death Experiences. Buffalo, NY: Prometheus Books.
* MacDonald, G. Jeffrey. Jan. 15, 2011. "Near death experiences being studied as more than sci-fi." San Antonio Express-News.:4B.
* IANDS - International Association for Near-death Studies. 9/1/2014. "Distressing Near-Death Experiences." http://iands.org/distressing-near-death-experiences.html.
* Moody, Raymond A. Jr., M.D. 1975. Life After Life: The Investigation of a Phenomenon-Survival of Bodily Death. Marietta, GA: Mockingbird Press.
* Pim van Lommel, Ruud van Wees, Vincent Meyers, and Ingrid Elfferich. December 15, 2001. " Near-death experience in survivors of cardiac arrest: a prospective study in the Netherlands." The Lancet. Vol 358:2039-2045.
* Pim van Lommel, M.D. 2010. Consciousness Beyond Life: The Science of the Near-Death Experience. New York, NY: Harper One.
* Sartori, Dr. Penny. 2014. The Wisdom of Near-Death Experiences: How Understanding NDEs can Help us Live More Fully. Oxford, UK: Watkins Publishing.
* Wikipedia. 9/1/2014. Near-death experience. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Near-death_experience.
*Williams, Kevin. 9/1/2014. Dr. Melvin Morse. http://www.near-death.com/experiences/experts06.html.
Monday, August 12, 2013
Charitable Deductions - The Foundation for Personal and Social Freedom
In considering policy decisions regarding budget and tax reform, charitable deductions should be protected as our foundation for personal and social freedom.
100 YEAR TRADITION
Congress enacted the charitable deduction in 1917, shortly after passage of the permanent income tax, to encourage the continuance of private giving to the community. 1.
For nearly 100 years charitable deductions have encouraged Americans to make decisions about the social programs that are best providing resources for the well-being of the community and country and to contribute monetary support for their continuance.
PERSONAL CHOICE -SOURCE OF INNOVATION AND SOCIAL BETTERMENT
This opportunity to contribute to the social organization of their choice has encouraged and motivated citizens to take an interest in their community and an interest in volunteering to support and contribute to social betterment.
Charitable deductions have been a source of innovation for programs of social betterment through nonprofit organizations. These groups support education, religion, health, scientific breakthroughs, crisis relief, music, art, literature, recreation, youth activities and a multitude of other interests.
When giving is a personal choice, donors are encouraged to volunteer their time and money to support the interests of their choice. The foundation of our freedom rests on the assurance that we know better than government bureaucracies what best serves our values and needs.
NONPROFITS AT RISK
Americans are a generous and giving people. However, according to a recent United Way poll, nearly two-thirds of the respondents say that without the charitable tax deduction they would have to reduce their giving significantly. Many nonprofits that are supplying vital services to the community would find it necessary to reduce or abandon their efforts. Billions of dollars of donations could be put at risk, undermining America's nonprofits and the people who are supported by them. 2.
PROTECT AMERICA'S STRENGTH
The strength of America lies in the wisdom of its citizens to care for the well-being of the communities in which they live through nonprofits, philanthropy, and personal charity.
We need to protect the American citizens' ability to continue these responsible contributions by protecting charitable tax deductions.
References:
1. Carson, Emmett D. "Charitable deduction should be the last thing Congress cuts." San Jose Mercury News.
2. Biemesderfer, David. Hansen, Teri A and Jerde, Roxie. "Guest Columnists: Don't cut charitable deduction." Herald-Tribune. Wednesday, June 5, 2013.
100 YEAR TRADITION
Congress enacted the charitable deduction in 1917, shortly after passage of the permanent income tax, to encourage the continuance of private giving to the community. 1.
For nearly 100 years charitable deductions have encouraged Americans to make decisions about the social programs that are best providing resources for the well-being of the community and country and to contribute monetary support for their continuance.
PERSONAL CHOICE -SOURCE OF INNOVATION AND SOCIAL BETTERMENT
This opportunity to contribute to the social organization of their choice has encouraged and motivated citizens to take an interest in their community and an interest in volunteering to support and contribute to social betterment.
Charitable deductions have been a source of innovation for programs of social betterment through nonprofit organizations. These groups support education, religion, health, scientific breakthroughs, crisis relief, music, art, literature, recreation, youth activities and a multitude of other interests.
When giving is a personal choice, donors are encouraged to volunteer their time and money to support the interests of their choice. The foundation of our freedom rests on the assurance that we know better than government bureaucracies what best serves our values and needs.
NONPROFITS AT RISK
Americans are a generous and giving people. However, according to a recent United Way poll, nearly two-thirds of the respondents say that without the charitable tax deduction they would have to reduce their giving significantly. Many nonprofits that are supplying vital services to the community would find it necessary to reduce or abandon their efforts. Billions of dollars of donations could be put at risk, undermining America's nonprofits and the people who are supported by them. 2.
PROTECT AMERICA'S STRENGTH
The strength of America lies in the wisdom of its citizens to care for the well-being of the communities in which they live through nonprofits, philanthropy, and personal charity.
We need to protect the American citizens' ability to continue these responsible contributions by protecting charitable tax deductions.
References:
1. Carson, Emmett D. "Charitable deduction should be the last thing Congress cuts." San Jose Mercury News.
2. Biemesderfer, David. Hansen, Teri A and Jerde, Roxie. "Guest Columnists: Don't cut charitable deduction." Herald-Tribune. Wednesday, June 5, 2013.
Friday, June 28, 2013
Chipping Away at Our Moral Foundation
Recently I was sorting my files and I came across an article written by my Father in 1980. As I read it I realized how appropriately it speaks to contemporary social concerns. I reproduce his concerns here.
THE RELIGION OF MORALISTIC CHIPS
by Weston Hare March 20, 1980
The Thesis of this essay is:
The inherent morality of the Christian religion has been, to a considerable degree, been put on the museum shelf and a superficial morality made up of "chips", slogans and decals has replaced it.
A minor example would be the smiling face symbol. A more general example would be the "Rights" explosion. You may think that these are flowers and fruits of Christianity growing on the Christian tree.
Well, let us consider this.
The basis of the morals of Christianity and Judaism are the Commandments of God: "Thou shalt not kill", etc. Start with that one. The U.S. Supreme Court recently said: It is proper to kill children before birth at the will of the mother.
Now, last I heard, we kill 1,200,000 babies each year by abortion. Why would the Supreme Court undertake to become conspirators - before-the- fact - of annual "Megamurder" (mega meaning a million)?
If God believes abortion to be killing, why should they legalize that? Taking an awful chance, aren't they?
Well, the reason for doing so is clear from the next Commandment.
"Thou shalt not commit adultery".
Clearly the Moralistic Chip religion has to squirm out of that one, because they have all sorts of ideas beyond THAT barrier. To rationalize these ideas, they invented birth control. And they reason that if unwanted children do not result from disobeying this Commandment, surely God would excuse us for putting this also on the shelf.
Because, Love, they say is of God.
At this point, they have fallen into a trap invented hundreds of years ago, when the English language made the word - LOVE- much broader in meaning than Greek & Latin words.
The English word came to include three Greek words for lust, unselfish love and marital love. The King James version of the Bible (370 years ago) avoided this trap by using the word "CHARITY" for unselfish love.
But, by the turn of the century and probably earlier 'love' often included all three. So, now, at this date, in many high places, the word includes adultery and even homosexuality.
God disapproves of the former and according to the Bible (even newer versions) literally 'hates' the latter.
So I guess it is a trap, all right. So they put that Commandment regarding adultery on the shelf and have many superficial chips or decals to take its place.
Take another Commandment "Thou shalt not covet - anything that is thy neighbor's".
That is a pretty good one for getting along together. But it is too much for the 'chips' religion.
It has been substituted by the "Rights" explosion of moralistic chips.
Now we are told among other things that it is our Right (nay, duty) to sue anyone (especially large organizations or insurance companies) for millions of dollars, it any of our "Rights" defined by the chips are violated.
Clearly, if a person may gain more by having some "Rights" violated than he could earn by a lifetime of hard work, no-one would fail to covet things belonging to his neighbor.
Therefore, the Rights Explosion (Let the chips fall where they may) is nothing but a Pig Factory making the people more like pigs than people. The word "Sue-ee" has long been used to assemble pigs. Ask any farmer.
The Rights explosion also destroys families and the normal passing along of social principles.
Children have 'rights' and need not obey their parents, they may sue their parents, or have contempt for them. They are to call - 800 - numbers if they think they are abused in any way. Therefore there must be a tendency to let the kids go uninstructed. Good parents may produce unworthy children because they are talked out of "bringing up children in the way they should go" and the children are talked out of believing them anyway.
So here we have another Commandment put on the museum shelf: "Honor thy father and thy mother."
Enough of that for the present,
but of what does this situation - The Moralistic Chips Religion - remind one?
Clearly it reminds one of the legalistic "Chips Religion" taught, in place of the laws given to Moses, by the Pharisees when Jesus came to the earth. Jesus went to great extremes to condemn the Pharisees (as children of Hell, sons of Satan, hypocrites, blind leaders of the blind, a generation of vipers, etc. etc.)
They had made up a large number of replacement rules (chips) which essentially put the basic mosaic laws aside and substituted others, which often relieved the leaders from obeying them.
I have not studied them in detail but clearly they were offensive to Jesus.
It seems to me that we are now being given by the Moral Establishment a similar, substituted, superficial religion which may well be no more respected by Jesus than the Pharisee's religion was then.
It would be wise to shy away from the Chips Religion and adhere to the more deeply seated program of the Bible.
Then, should Jesus return to the earth, we would be on His side, rather than on that of the Neo-Pharisees who seem to be in charge of much of the teaching today.
THE RELIGION OF MORALISTIC CHIPS
by Weston Hare March 20, 1980
The Thesis of this essay is:
The inherent morality of the Christian religion has been, to a considerable degree, been put on the museum shelf and a superficial morality made up of "chips", slogans and decals has replaced it.
A minor example would be the smiling face symbol. A more general example would be the "Rights" explosion. You may think that these are flowers and fruits of Christianity growing on the Christian tree.
Well, let us consider this.
The basis of the morals of Christianity and Judaism are the Commandments of God: "Thou shalt not kill", etc. Start with that one. The U.S. Supreme Court recently said: It is proper to kill children before birth at the will of the mother.
Now, last I heard, we kill 1,200,000 babies each year by abortion. Why would the Supreme Court undertake to become conspirators - before-the- fact - of annual "Megamurder" (mega meaning a million)?
If God believes abortion to be killing, why should they legalize that? Taking an awful chance, aren't they?
Well, the reason for doing so is clear from the next Commandment.
"Thou shalt not commit adultery".
Clearly the Moralistic Chip religion has to squirm out of that one, because they have all sorts of ideas beyond THAT barrier. To rationalize these ideas, they invented birth control. And they reason that if unwanted children do not result from disobeying this Commandment, surely God would excuse us for putting this also on the shelf.
Because, Love, they say is of God.
At this point, they have fallen into a trap invented hundreds of years ago, when the English language made the word - LOVE- much broader in meaning than Greek & Latin words.
The English word came to include three Greek words for lust, unselfish love and marital love. The King James version of the Bible (370 years ago) avoided this trap by using the word "CHARITY" for unselfish love.
But, by the turn of the century and probably earlier 'love' often included all three. So, now, at this date, in many high places, the word includes adultery and even homosexuality.
God disapproves of the former and according to the Bible (even newer versions) literally 'hates' the latter.
So I guess it is a trap, all right. So they put that Commandment regarding adultery on the shelf and have many superficial chips or decals to take its place.
Take another Commandment "Thou shalt not covet - anything that is thy neighbor's".
That is a pretty good one for getting along together. But it is too much for the 'chips' religion.
It has been substituted by the "Rights" explosion of moralistic chips.
Now we are told among other things that it is our Right (nay, duty) to sue anyone (especially large organizations or insurance companies) for millions of dollars, it any of our "Rights" defined by the chips are violated.
Clearly, if a person may gain more by having some "Rights" violated than he could earn by a lifetime of hard work, no-one would fail to covet things belonging to his neighbor.
Therefore, the Rights Explosion (Let the chips fall where they may) is nothing but a Pig Factory making the people more like pigs than people. The word "Sue-ee" has long been used to assemble pigs. Ask any farmer.
The Rights explosion also destroys families and the normal passing along of social principles.
Children have 'rights' and need not obey their parents, they may sue their parents, or have contempt for them. They are to call - 800 - numbers if they think they are abused in any way. Therefore there must be a tendency to let the kids go uninstructed. Good parents may produce unworthy children because they are talked out of "bringing up children in the way they should go" and the children are talked out of believing them anyway.
So here we have another Commandment put on the museum shelf: "Honor thy father and thy mother."
Enough of that for the present,
but of what does this situation - The Moralistic Chips Religion - remind one?
Clearly it reminds one of the legalistic "Chips Religion" taught, in place of the laws given to Moses, by the Pharisees when Jesus came to the earth. Jesus went to great extremes to condemn the Pharisees (as children of Hell, sons of Satan, hypocrites, blind leaders of the blind, a generation of vipers, etc. etc.)
They had made up a large number of replacement rules (chips) which essentially put the basic mosaic laws aside and substituted others, which often relieved the leaders from obeying them.
I have not studied them in detail but clearly they were offensive to Jesus.
It seems to me that we are now being given by the Moral Establishment a similar, substituted, superficial religion which may well be no more respected by Jesus than the Pharisee's religion was then.
It would be wise to shy away from the Chips Religion and adhere to the more deeply seated program of the Bible.
Then, should Jesus return to the earth, we would be on His side, rather than on that of the Neo-Pharisees who seem to be in charge of much of the teaching today.
Monday, April 8, 2013
An Open Letter to the Boy Scouts of America National Council
Dear Leaders and Friends of Boy Scouts of America;
I encourage the National Council of Boy Scouts of America to uphold the ban on gay leaders when it votes in May. As a cub scout leader and scout mother in the 1970's and now a scout grandmother, I am concerned that this change in behavioral expectations for our sons will undermine the foundations of moral, religious and family values in our country.
As a professor of sociology, now retired, I have given considerable thought to examining this issue from the differing perspectives. I am enclosing a paper presented at the Southwestern Sociological Association Meetings in 2010.
The PDF file of this paper - "Over the Rainbow: The Gay Battle for Social Reorganization of America" is located on my website, www.wrestlingwithangels.com. It can be downloaded on to electronic readers at no cost.
Concerns are summarized on page 1. "The normalization of homosexuality in society will create profound changes in social organization, especially in the areas of social integration, social reproduction, social health and the inter-generational transfer of cultural values. The social discourse has been rampant with charges of bigotry, hate mongering and charges of homophobia. However, neither intimidation, tolerance nor back slapping love fests are appropriate means to bring about change in social behavior that has wide reaching consequences."
Personal concerns are outlined in two articles from my blogsite. "On Telling Children to Play in the Traffic" (Sept. 3, 2012) and "Prude Pride - Restoring Sexual Sanity" (Sept. 27, 2012).
"For God and Country" has been a foundational motto for the Boy Scouts. The normalization of homosexuality would place the Boy Scouts at odds with religious family values, making it inappropriate to support and protect these values within the organization.
Thank you for your consideration of these concerns.
Marjorie L. Coppock, Ph.D.
I encourage the National Council of Boy Scouts of America to uphold the ban on gay leaders when it votes in May. As a cub scout leader and scout mother in the 1970's and now a scout grandmother, I am concerned that this change in behavioral expectations for our sons will undermine the foundations of moral, religious and family values in our country.
As a professor of sociology, now retired, I have given considerable thought to examining this issue from the differing perspectives. I am enclosing a paper presented at the Southwestern Sociological Association Meetings in 2010.
The PDF file of this paper - "Over the Rainbow: The Gay Battle for Social Reorganization of America" is located on my website, www.wrestlingwithangels.com. It can be downloaded on to electronic readers at no cost.
Concerns are summarized on page 1. "The normalization of homosexuality in society will create profound changes in social organization, especially in the areas of social integration, social reproduction, social health and the inter-generational transfer of cultural values. The social discourse has been rampant with charges of bigotry, hate mongering and charges of homophobia. However, neither intimidation, tolerance nor back slapping love fests are appropriate means to bring about change in social behavior that has wide reaching consequences."
Personal concerns are outlined in two articles from my blogsite. "On Telling Children to Play in the Traffic" (Sept. 3, 2012) and "Prude Pride - Restoring Sexual Sanity" (Sept. 27, 2012).
"For God and Country" has been a foundational motto for the Boy Scouts. The normalization of homosexuality would place the Boy Scouts at odds with religious family values, making it inappropriate to support and protect these values within the organization.
Thank you for your consideration of these concerns.
Marjorie L. Coppock, Ph.D.
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